I’m a Man, That’s My Job (IAMTMJ) is my favourite book written by Frank. If I had to choose which product of Frank’s that helped me in my development the most, it would be this book.

IAMTMJ is an inner game workbook. He goes into detail what inner game is all about, how it can be a method of procrastinating (i.e. creative avoidance), and how to strengthen your inner self. What was most useful to me in this book was the written exercises. These exercises ask you about yourself and they really define who you are. They are supposed to help you with your inner game, but I also think they also help with your outer game as well (e.g. having a list of 10 peak life experiences help you with storytelling)

To me, it was what I was looking for; a book with lots of seduction related WORK that help me get in touch of who I really am. It is not just a book full of blank lines to fill. Frank goes into detail about the purpose of every exercise and how it will benefit you, and he gives you a couple of examples to start off. What I also found helpful was Frank’s listing of 10 stages of development. If you are a Seducer-in-Training, this will let you know which stage you are at and what type of feelings and obstacles you are probably going through (e.g. Mid-Range seducers face a lot of sad moments in their journey).

IAMTMJ is definitely worth the money. While many Pick-Up related products cost a fortune and offer little useful content, IAMTMJ is quite the opposite. For a book that is reasonably priced, you get information about inner game and answers about yourself that will last a lifetime. Whether it’s figuring out specific problems with your behaviours or just wanting to know more about yourself, the exercises you do in IAMTMJ will help you answer those questions. I usually don’t say many things are a must buy when it comes to Pick-Up or Seduction related products, but I have to say that IAMTMJ is a must buy. No matter what level of your life you are in as a man, you are going to find this book to be extremely helpful.

By: Rockstar

Review of the book "I'm a Man That's my Job":
-by Sly

This book is written for men by Frank. The reason I say by Frank is because he understands what men go through, as he went through it himself. A lot of these exercises are exercises that he did in order to go through his development from Loser to Seducer. All the material inside it will help you get through what you need to get through, as a man in this world.

This book is not meant to help so much your outer game, as it is meant to help your inner game. He also helps explain what his definition of inner game is, which is not broad, but actually closer to the real truth than most stuff out there. He explains it's how a man views the world around him. It helps give you a clear picture of the real world, and helps you focus yourself to see how you are an important part of it.

This book helped me out so immensely, that it's almost unmentionable. One of the most important aspects of this book is the lists he makes you write out. He has come up with different lists of self-awareness, which help you to see who you really are. He forces you to ask yourself questions about your preferences and influences, that have probably shaped you without your realization. Another really important part of this book is Frank's base life philosophies. He helps explain what he believes are fundamental truths about the way the world works, as well as theories he has such as the lack of Sex being the root of all evil. These all help to give a man a good grasp of what to make of his surroundings, and what part he is to play in them.

Above all else, I believe this is his most impactful material. Although it isn't his most renowned work, it is definitely some of the most important.

I've read A LOT of community material since starting my journey of working toward mastery with women. This book has a greater effect on my game than any other single piece of text ever.

Inner game was never something I really tried to address directly. My strategy was to just go out as often as possible and let my inner game work itself out. After many months of ignoring this component I was (little did I know) in need of this kind of work. I think it's just something about men that things need to be laid out and written down in order for them to become real when previously they were just unspoken ideas.

The "why the man is the prize" exercise was worth the price in itself. Granted, I was probably at a point where I was 'ready' for this stuff to click into place, but I honestly wish I had done it earlier.

Ok so I probably should've started with this but, I'm a Man, That's my Job is an inner game book for men. It takes you step-by-step in developing your own custom inner game. There's a lot to do. The volume also includes teaching from Kermit on many topics ranging from the meaning/purpose of life to how to rate women.

What was most surprising about doing this inner game was how it makes a lot of what you're already doing fit together. How everything can come together like a puzzle without conflict or hypocrisy when your inner game is tight and how your mind becomes clearer and you act more congruently (and honestly) because you understand how your actions fit into your long term gameplan.

I use to think my understanding of game was good, but until I spent some real time and energy on this part of it I was missing a lot of key concepts that brought everything together. I went from looking for routines that "fit with me" to going almost 100% natural because that's just what makes sense now and my results jumped. Now my routines are things that I've come up with. Better results with women and a far better vibe and state for me.

The downside of the book is that it isn't a book you can just read threw on the subway quickly cover to cover and get the same results, but, if you were looking for a quick fix this book wasn't going to give what you wanted anyways.
-Artisan in Toronto

I would recommend a newbie read Frank B. Kermit's "Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test" and "I'm a Man, It's My Job". The first will give the guy an understanding of WHY all the techniques mentioned in the books you mention work because it explains women’s emotional needs. The second is a classic on inner game - without which the effectiveness of the teachings in the books you mention will be very limited.
-A review from Relax&Flow of relaxandflow.blogspot.com

I've had the great opportunity to sit down and read Frank's book, "I'm a man and that's my job". What I can say about it is that for those of you who want to build your inner self and become a better seducer, be prepared to sit down and hammer out other parts of your life. The writing exercises in Frank's book really focus on having a paradigm change in your way of thinking. Taking different aspects from things like looking at your own mortality to your beliefs (not necessarily religious), through defining yourself by thinking about these things, you build character. In an average day, I would do two to three of these writing exercises as to give each writing lesson time to sink in and truly ponder what would be meaningful. I've taken a lot out of the book so far in terms of defining my goals and collective thoughts. By doing more of the writing exercises and letting them incubate, you'll discover that a tremendous metamorphosis is happening. You may not see the matrix right away, but overall, life, as a man, makes more sense. I'd highly recommend this book to anyone in the pickup community as a means to do some introspection and improve your overall perspective.
-Reeves in Toronto

I have met him in person and this guys head is like a machine, spitting out witting responses to anything you throw at him. It could be an opening problem, to a relationship, to a neg, dhv, dlv, story telling.. u name it and he takes 5 seconds to respond with something you cannot argue with. Concrete stuff! *thumbs up* - N. in Toronto

This is a great investment for all those who are interested in improving their game. If I had gotten this as my first book, this would have set me down the right path from the very start of my journey, but getting at this point in my journey just highlights deficiencies in my inner game. This is how a man creates inner game ideals for himself.
Also, make sure to take advantage of the one-on-one time with Frank because it is invaluable. Having worked with Frank on several occasions, I have found his interpretations insightful and shockingly accurate. - Gillette

This is a book for anyone who wants to build their inner game. Peppered throughout the theories and philosophies of Frank are writing exercises that are a must for anyone who wants to build a reality that is conducive to meeting women. I got this book a few months ago and basically read the book and did about half the exercises. I was at a place where I had foundational inner game but was not at a place where I could define the details of my life as of yet. It is now months later and I am finding that every page I read leaps out with some new insight and every writing exercise forms another piece of my reality. Now that I have committed to making meeting women a lifestyle, everything in this book bears new relevance to me. This book is all those who would commit themselves to the path of becoming a natural. Without doing the change work in this book, I don't see how a person could be happy with any successes they may come by or even if they could achieve success at all. I think to get the most benefit out of this book, reading Frank's book on tests first is a must but simply working through this book reaps rewards of its own. - G from Toronto

Looking back I was once a natural with women. However, like you mentioned in your book I'm a Man, That's My Job, when a lived natural experiences some major difficulties in life which he didn't expect and can't handle, he will hit ground-zero. And that's what happened to me, as I was turning girls on to the point where I sometimes had to pause because they were becoming too clingy and I didn't know what I wanted; and because of my religious beliefs I wasn't finishing (having the sex involved), it led me into self-doubt and depression. That was before I read your books and came to understand what was really going on. Now I am aware of the consequences and I will never again want to go around hurting women by rejecting them for sex, but I still will have a master seducer's level of understanding of relationships, as I continue to be true to my faith. Let me also mention, a true Bible believer do not condemn others, but is committed to truths and I believe most of what you say relating to males should start behaving like men is something the Bible also teaches. The problem is spooky religious people led us to think otherwise. Here is an example of a scripture in the Bible which I believe is encouraging males to behave like men.' Proverbs 31:3 - Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.' And what happens when we men act like wimps? We give our strengths to women and it ends up destroying our relationships. I appreciate your efforts in writing your books and I'm a Man, That's My Job is my favorite as I also believed men have been feminized in today's world. I consider you a mentor. I'm a Man, that's my job is exactly the book I needed at this period of time in my life. Every woman deserves to have a great relationship with a man, and we can only give them that if we know what it means to be a real man. This is the best inner game book for naturals that have found themselves struggling with women for the first time in their lives, and need some hardcore inner game work to get them back on track. (PQ, Amsterdam, The Netherlands)

I'm a Man, Thats My Job really got me to realize that I don't know what I want. I went through this book and only answered half the questions. I'll go though it again later and hopefully be able to answer the questions in better detail. But first I need to get out and get some experience. What I liked most about the questions in the work book was qualifing women. What you want for one night stand, f-buddy, or wife. I never wrote this down before and it gets you thinking about what you want. When your in a relationship it's hard to see what you have. Probably because I loose control and dominance in the relationship and then it's over. I like that you tell us whats going to happen as you change, like it or not. You might loose some friends, and people will look at differently. Which is what I want if I'm going to change. A Review from John of New Hampton IA

No woman should ever find herself saying "there are no good men out there". But I hear it all the time. It's a grim reminder of what a sad state our culture is in. Of how movies, magazines, books and love songs have shown men the worst examples of how to behave with women.

I want it to stop. That's where Frank B. Kermit comes in.

He's not only saying we need to rethink what it means to be a man, but what it means to be a Seducer. We've let it become a dirty word. But ask yourself this: what woman doesn't want to be seduced?

I'm not talking about a quick pick up from a sharp dressed smooth talker. There's a time and place for that, too, but this is about more. Much more.

I'm talking about YOU becoming the kind of man who's capable of building and holding the deepest levels of attraction, rapport and passion she's ever experienced. A man who knows who he is and what he wants. A man who knows how to address her emotional needs. A man who knows how to lead. If you do that, she'll happily give you the best she has to offer.

Not just for one night. For as long as you want.

Sounds great, right? All you have to do is read the book and *PRESTO* you're fixed.

Let me be really clear about this. There aren't any short cuts. Frank's stuff will confront and challenge your core values. Dude's gonna shake your foundations. But he's going to make you work for it.

Change is not easy.

But this book WILL put you on a clear path of self-discovery, transition, and growth. In my opinion, Frank's structured it to get you there as efficiently as possible. And he does it with straight, simple language.

Now that I know I'm A Man, That's My Job, the world is opening up for me. The quality of all my relationships has improved dramatically. And the women in my life appreciate it more than I could ever have imagined.

-Dragonkid Toronto PUA

This book has been valuable to me and still is for my development in this area. Kermit’s knowledge and experience have helped me in many difficult situations I faced in my relationships with women. His advice is invaluable.

“I’m A Man, That’s My Job” is truly a philosophy a man should follow. Many of us in the community have taken a similar path... we want to live like real men, who know what they want and who have strong beliefs.

Most of Kermit’s beliefs are counter-intuitive at the beginning. We think that women are like us and that they function like men. He makes us realize how they are different in many ways, their reasoning is not like us. He makes you work on your beliefs about many things and shows you his own philosophies.

Being a man also means to have your OWN point of view, what Kermit writes in his books does not mean that it is the absolute truth, but the mindsets he presents have helped him tremendously to get the results he was looking for. He makes you realize that the important thing is to have YOUR OWN set of beliefs and philosophies, by completing all the writing exercises and real life drills.

This book will help you set a foundation of beliefs that will make your relationships with women stronger. It will help you develop a stronger identity that will get you what your looking for in this area of your life.

-Armada,Montreal

I'M a Man, that's My Job: Frank B. Kermit's 3rd work of art. This is nothing like Kermit's 1st or 2nd book. This is a journey, an experience that will completely alter who you are, remodel you to your best and allow the greatest part of your identity to emerge. Have you ever asked yourself what you really want in life? What you truly want with women? Or are you one of those average chumps who'll settle for whatever comes his way? It's time to get to know yourself and create the your best possible identity.

I'M a Man That's My Job teaches you how to be in total control of the reality around you. THAT, my friend, is attractive.

This is a personalized book, designed for me, and for you. A variety of lists will allow you to create such a solid identity and image of yourself that you will be able to persuade people, influence people, have people agree with you, and never become unnecessarily emotional again. Imagine being so sure of yourself you wouldn't have to hesitate ever again before making THE BEST decision. You know what is right because you know who you are.
If you know who you are, you know what you want. If you know what you want, you're a man. Because what do women complain most about? Men don't know what they want. Yes you do! That's the knowledge you will acquire thanks to Frank B. Kermit.

As a final thought, my belief is that in the world of dating and relationships, women have their diaries and their best friends. Personally, I think a man should have "I'M a Man, That's My Job".

Review written by Pzn_Player
Montreal, July 19th 2007

I'm A Man, That's My Job: The Philosophy Of A Seducer - a great book on helping you know who you are, what you want, and where you're going. In my opinion, I don’t believe that Franks books are a pick up guide. I do however believe they will truly enhance your relationship and your general interactions with women. GET THE BOOKS it's well worth it!!!This book is as important if not more as other inner game packages out there. This book is a Another MUST HAVE. - Warrior1

I have bought all of Frank Kermit's books on pre-order... and I have found them all useful. This book, while slightly different in scope and character to his previous two, did not disappoint.

"I'm a Man, That's My Job: The Philosophy of a Seducer" is structured as part workbook, part coming- of-age story, part textbook. Although a lot of the material is familiar to someone who is a student of dating and relationships, there are nuggets of gold which make this book more than worth the price of admission. In my reading, the book deals with two core areas: theories of inner game and the process of self-change. Kermit's Ten Rules of Relationships and his theories of dominance are spot-on with what I have observed as I myself have gone through the process he outlines in his book. In particular, reading his list of the Ten Emotional Needs of Men was like removing the veil from the elusive obvious. I read the list and kept saying, "yes, that's true... yes, and that one too."

When he releases his book devoted solely to this topic, I'll read it the moment it arrives.... and lend a second copy to the girl(s) that I'm with at the time. I could continue, but you'll just have to read the book for yourself.

The second topic, that of self-change, gives important advice that I have not seen covered by anyone else. His theory of development from Loser to Learned Natural explained a lot of things for me. As a "Learned Seducer in Training" on his way to "Seducer", I always wondered why many men who started off on the journey stopped halfway through this path of ultimate riches. Now I know.

It was his section on "Beware Your Mentors", however, that gave me a truly great epiphany. I often found that advice from the various gurus would work, but then a sticking point that I never had before would arise. Kermit's theory explains what you must do and what you must avoid.

As I've continued to develop myself out of recognition from my pre-change persona, I have found Kermit's books to be of immense value. "I'm a Man, That's My Job" is no exception. Keep up the good work, Frank... and keep writing! -Byzantine

I hate writing reviews... you never know if they are placed here by the authors friends or if they are REAL!

Well.. I'm real... and I think this book is awesome! Accepting responsibility and being a man is TRUE inner work... not sitting down and wishing things would get better. Getting up off your butt and making it better!

There are many items that you will work with... I learned so much about death and facing it like a man... my walk looking at tombstones slapped me out of a 10 year funk. Life is my job... so I bought an extra book for my 16 year old son!

I'll be using this the rest of my days... what a great investment I made.

-Willpowerz

Frank B. Kermit's book I'm A Man, That's My Job is without a doubt the best book available on inner game. I should know because I have read the others. Inner Game is more than just repeating a mantra, standing a certain way or developing a phony 'persona' to overcome your insecurities. Frank leads you step-by-step on a journey to find out who you really are, what you want and what you have to do to get there. Don't expect Frank to give you a collection of tips and tricks to meet women. This book is really about you and how to become your ideal self. This approach leads to success in all areas of life especially with women. I have benefited from reading Frank's book and I am confident that others will find it extremely helpful. -KL

I have been meditating on your latest book. Especially on the part about being a man means sucking it up. Now when I feel like whining, I suck it up. I have noticed life changes because of this new mind set. For example, I have been waiting 3 weeks for a security clearance to come through. Then I can start my Ontario Government summer job. Even though I am stressed and bored, I keep repeating, "being a man means sucking it up". It goes along with your theory about changing one's mental harmonics results in real life changes. I was amazed how this works. I see the value to understand how a man's mind creates energy women can feel. I believe this is so basic most people are not aware of its existence. My conclusion: changes to a man’s thoughts create a changed vibe. Women are receptive to this vibe. When changed vibes resonates confidence, trust, and safety, women are more responsive to being approached. Result: more chances of getting laid, girlfriend, partner or wife. Thanks for the firm no BS talk. I appreciate your words and WILL go back to being a firm guy about what I want. Thanks for being the Frank guy we in the community want to be like. – L. in Ontario

This is the third (so far) of the series of books written by Frank B. Kermit. It focuses on what it means to be a man in relation to life and women. It is not another book that just tells you what is right and wrong for a man to think or do. Frank made sure that you first realize who YOU are, what you believe in at the moment, and then look at your beliefs, ways of thinking and then he will guide you to see the world in a new light. The most unique feature of this book is that it is exercise-oriented. Reading this book you will be led to find out things about yourself, in forms of small essays or lists. From the big picture, like figuring out what are the things you want other people to remember you for when you're gone from this world, through your beliefs about what women, men, to finding people, movies, or symbols that you relate to. Some of these questions you'll be able to answer right away, some might take months to actually find out. These practical exercises are intertwined with carefully chosen guiding information that will help successfully reshape the ways of your thinking and understanding. You will learn what are the 10 emotional needs of a man, the 10 rules of relationships, why women are unable to provide you with good advice on dating, how to ensure from the beginning that a relationship will grow into a healthy one, why YOU (not men in general, but personally YOU) are the prize, and many others. You will also learn what are the stages of development from a loser to a natural seducer, and what are their biggest challenges, dangers, and most powerful tools at each stage. Finally you'll be helped to create your seduction persona that scoops off your alter-ego and knowledge of who you truly are to create a well-defined image of who you want to be. All in all – a marvelous book that will practically and step by step help you find and improve the real man in you. - Maverick B.