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  • By Bill DeHaven
    Oct 8, 2006
    "Taking Charge" There is a popular adage in Alcoholics Anonymous that goes something like..."You cannnot think your way to sober action. You have to act your way to sober thinking". Changing behavior, whether it is addiction or how we react to difficult people, causes discomfort, in part, because we are unfamiliar with the feelings that accompany the new behavior and how to cope with them. We all wish that we could make necessary and dramatic changes in our lives overnight and, much like George Constanza in the sitcom Seinfeld, have financial success and the beautiful blonde show up in our lives simply by doing everything exactly the opposite of our norm. It's not quite that easy, nor as fast, but Dr. Wilton offers practical wisdom on how to change behavior....both internally, for example, by adopting a habit of giving ourselves different internal messages or "playing different tapes" i.e....."I CAN do it"or "I am NOT a victim"....and... More > externally by making lists, setting priorities and focusing on one thing at a time. She explains where the old internal messages originated and why we no longer need to feel compelled to listen to them, and her plan for change is realistic and not Pollyannish so as to set up the reader for failure. Even the size of the book symbolizes its practical value, the reader not being forced to wade through chapter after chapter of anecdotes, a blemish on too many self-help books. Dr. Wilton does not offer a philosophy of life ("I'm not much of a philosopher")....just how to make the most of it. In this regard, she continues her encouragement that we avoid thinking of ourselves as victims ( a most egregious bad habit, she writes ) and that we take responsibility for formulating our own personal philosophy of life...."it is our responsibility and is closely intertwined with who we are, what we believe and how we behave". In so doing, the author's fundamental objectivity ( and credibility ) is disclosed, and she avoids tainting her book with an underlying theme of proselytization, making her lessons available to everyone.< Less
  • By dwisc
    Sep 4, 2006
    "Re: Taking Charge: A Conversation About Building Life Skills " The author's name is Eli_s_abeth.
  • By Bob Gorman
    Aug 19, 2006
    "Taking Charge: A Conversation About Building Life Skills " This book presents a viewpoint on childhood, teenage and adult behaviors that is both fascinating, and refreshing. The author's observations and insights into teenage behavior alone is well worth the modest price of the book. She stresses, in quite a variety of ways, that we are all different, and the consequences of seeing people as being very different i.e. as individuals. For example: The catch here is that people have a tendency to assume that other people are like them, despite all the evidence to the contrary. But because it seems natural to do so, I am likely to do for you what I want done for myself, even though you may want something quite different. Again the differences between us are profound. Her explanations of extrovert and introvert personalities are not the typical academic definitions that leave you wondering what was really said. After reading Elizabeth's descriptions you feel like you have... More > truly lived in their heads. She even refines the notion of being an extrovert to distinguish between a “born” extrovert or a “learned” one; a subtle, useful, and with her words most understandable distinction. Another point she makes is that our internal beliefs have multiple origins, they can come from either consistent and persistent pressure, or from traumatic events. Chapter 3 entitled "Changing Behavior" is what we want to hear from a practical living point of view. Most of us regular folk don't care about why we're doing frustrating things - we simply want to stop doing them, and here Elizabeth's observations and exercises are so practical. She pulls no punches in her beliefs: "I believe that defining oneself as a victim is one of the most dis-empowering acts one can commit, and I shudder each time I hear the word." Not being a victim means dealing with adversity, not giving in to it. She also explains the effects of repressing fierce emotion, and has practical steps for dealing with feeling overwhelmed. Her bottom line: We all differ on so many levels and dimensions and intensities! Being aware of this enables us to deal with ourselves and others more effectively.< Less
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First Edition
Elisabeth S. Wilton
October 28, 2006
Perfect-bound Paperback
Interior Ink
Black & white
0.38 lbs.
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4.25 wide x 6.88 tall
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