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  • By L G
    Aug 29, 2015
    Femdom lifestyle at its best! A well-written book by a dominant lady, describing her real female-led life. This book is an excellent read, both in its writing style and its easy to understand steps. An enjoyable book both for the interested ones and the ones that want to follow a guideline. Highly recommended!
  • By tboy98
    May 20, 2015
    An excellent book that describes an effective approach to female led relationship.
  • By keith.vanzandt
    Sep 7, 2011
    This book may be a little on the pricey side but as it goes: You get what you pay for. I've become interested in and reseached the Female-led lifestyle and this book presents D/s in the best and most positive way I've found. I was not interested in the bondage or corporal punishment "fantasy" scene under a dominatrix. This book helped me (and wife) to understand the rewarding benefits of a "service-oriented" approach to our relationship. Application of most of the techniques have proved successful thus far. If you're serious about prioritizing your dominant spouse above yourself in a meaningful, constructive and rewarding way, Uniquely Rika will serve as a superb baseline. It certainly is a practical, no-nonsense approach to a fulfilling Female-led, service oriented Dominance and Submission-Based relationship.
  • By Chris Bear
    Sep 29, 2009
    "Best book about long-term D/s relationships" Ms. Rika really understands the needs of service subs. I consider myself in this category and love that special connection when you are able to pamper and take care of the needs of a Domme. Where her take differs from other views I’ve encountered is that service should be its own reward. In other words, the reward for a sub who does good service is to be in service in the first place. An extension of this is her view that scene play and sexual tension (including tease and denial and chastity) are gifts that a Domme can give to a sub but not tied to their primary service in any way. By offering up gifts instead of rewards a Domme avoids creating a "tit for tat" environment where the sub expects some sort of sexual payment for services rendered. This was actually a really new take for me on the D/s dynamic, but after some reflection I believe it truly is the key to a successful service-based D/s relationship. The... More > pleasure for a sub should come from the act of serving. If not, then you really aren’t a service sub and any long-term relationship built on those principals is bound to fail. Ms. Rika also points out that every D/s relationship needs a solid vanilla relationship or marriage as a foundation. This can include, in her opinion, the sub initiating sex if that is something pleasing for the Domme. Also, despite her view that scene play and orgasm denial are games gifted for the sake of the sub, Ms. Rika gives some fantastic advice and guidelines for these male-centric sexual activities. This is the only book I’ve seen that really addresses the realities of forming a long-term D/s relationship and I highly recommend it for any couples who are working toward that goal. It’s also a great read for any service sub as Ms. Rika explains the core concepts of service and what being a service sub really means.< Less
    Jun 24, 2009
    "Finally - Ms. Rika gets it and now so do I" Over the past 25 years, I’ve purchased every book on FLR that didn’t look like the typical jerk off book. Like many of you, I tried and failed to get my wife interested in a wife led marriage. The disciplinary wives’ club approach did not work for us. Uniquely Rika helped me better understand me. After 25 years of dreaming about a FLR I thought I knew exactly what I wanted, and how to present it to my wife. Ms. Rika’s approach to introducing this to your mate will work. Now that I am faced with that certainty versus a fantasy, I have to decide if this is something I really. I initially delayed purchasing due to the cost of the book. Don’t delay buying this book. It is worth it.
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Ms. Rika @ SGMDesigns
February 28, 2008
Perfect-bound Paperback
Interior Ink
Black & white
0.47 lbs.
Dimensions (inches)
6 wide x 9 tall
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