EMPATHY IS THE KEY : NO MATTER WHERE WE ARE IN THE LIFE OF AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP, EMPATHY IS THE QUALITY WE NEED.
“After all is said and done, to thrive in an intimate relationship, the quality most required is that of empathy extended from each partner to the other. We can attain this state after both partners have learned to know and accept themselves, and after they know and fully accept the other. In addition to empathy, we need to become curious and diligent students of our relationship, the We that we create, which is an entity unto itself and is as real as each of us as individuals.”
In If I Love You, Why Is It So Hard to Live With You?, Dr. Gleeson discusses how we can tackle the process of learning how to know and accept ourselves, how we can make a healthy choice of intimate partner, and how we can come to understand our relationship.
If you are searching for a book that will help you understand your partner better or guide you to a deeper understanding of yourself, well look no further and try "IF I LOVE YOU, WHY IS IT SO HARD TO LIVE WITH YOU?" This book is a collection of "ah ha" moments, cleverly written by Dr. Gleeson, reminding us why it is important to accept and love ourselves while also understanding why our partners do the things they do! I find the section on "Learning to Become A Couple" very helpful at the moment, as I continue to work on my own relationship, but this is the type of book that you will find yourself referring back to; taking away little "golden nuggets" as you learn more about Me, You and We! A big thank you to Dr. Gleeson for reminding us that we all have the ability to create a healthy intimate relationship if we put in a little effort now and again! This book has certainly opened my eyes...will you allow it to open yours?
This book was such an enlightening and compelling read. It made me think about things that I had never thought about, and in ways that I had never thought about them. I would highly recommend it for anyone interested in puzzling out how relationships work and why.
As a young, medical student who was first captured by Healing Soul Misery, I looked forward to Dr. Sue's second book, If I Love You, Why Is It So Hard to Live With You' with much anticipation! This book offers many practical tools that a person can use when creating and sustaining an intimate relationship. Ranging from exercises such as Personal and Relationship value cards to determining one's Meyers Briggs Type Indicator - both of which have profoundly helped me to understand myself and partner better- Dr. Sue writes with great clarity and presents the facts in a straightforward manner. I thoroughly enjoyed her book, and I look forward to using her tools as a guide to continue growing in my current relationship. Thank you for creating this wonderful book!
After thoroughly enjoying Susan's first book, 'Healing Soul Misery,' I could hardly wait for her second book. 'If I Love You, Why Is It So Hard to Live With You?' urged me to re-evaluate my own approach to empathy, and how important empathy (or the lack thereof) can impact my own relationships. Susan uses plain language, and offers simple yet effective exercises to help readers understand very clearly that marriage (or any intimate, loving relationship) can follow difficult, even treacherous pathways, unless we are willing to really evaluate who we are, who we want to be, who we want our partners to be, who they want to be, and who they really are! As she reveals much of her personal journey to us, Susan helps readers explore what makes marriages 'tick' and what can cause the relationship clock to stop. And this is not 'psychobabble'; although her medical and therapist's training gives this insightful work authority, it is the author's compassion, empathy and genuine desire to see... More > relationships work that makes it speak. A very helpful book from a truly wonderful person.< Less
Dr.Sue Gleeson's book is excellent. Short, straightforward and highly readable, it contains the seeds of healing for broken relationships; advice on how to grow in relationship and pathways toward understanding how to get along with, flourish with and enjoy our loved ones. Get a copy for yourself, your partner and your kids, for starters.
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