What are you Doing?

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There are thousands of Godly young people who want to get married, are ready to get married, and should be married… indeed should have been married long ago… who are not married. Their church, their friends, and their families have all prepared them for marriage, for early marriage, for early, fruitful marriage… and they are not married. There is no persecution, no law, there are no physical infirmities that prevent them from being married… but they are not married. This is not a ‘panic’, it is a crisis. We have many of the very best and brightest of our Christian young people who are already well past the flower of their age, and they are not married. That is beyond a crisis, it is a catastrophe. Scripture provides clear answers to this crisis: which we have ignored because they run counter to our culture. It is time that we began to take every thought captive to Christ, and throw off the chains of bondage to this world. It is time we... More > ‘let them marry’.< Less
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  • By lmanske
    Apr 1, 2019
    Nothing but legalism.
  • By joelochua
    Apr 2, 2016
    So as I write this, I have already seen the Father orchestrate through His word, dreams, and the obedience of his daughters, a surprising betrothal between me & a sister-in-Christ. We had no eyes for each other, no desire to be married to one another, with only the purest intentions between each other. After she submitted to the Father, heart feelings began to grow on both sides... And now we're "In a Relationship" headed for marriage. I can't recommend Vaughn Ohlman's book enough. I am a testimony to the truth written in there. God's way of bringing His choice partners together still applies today and the Bible sets the good, perfect, and pleasing standard that we can choose to follow.
  • By Matthew Ferro
    Jul 3, 2014
    As a Christian previously engaged in Christian dating, this book hits home. It is a very thought provoking and Biblically centered book, yet organized in an interestingly fun story about a young Christian man who is interested in dating. This book will get you thinking critically about the Biblical path to marriage, a topic which you may not have thought much about before. Or, if you have, this will most likely engage you in a much deeper and profound way. It questions many cultural traditions which the Church's young men and women (under the eye of their Christian parents) partake in. Dating, courting, and engagement are all examined in light of the Scripture through a series of short chapters of thought provoking conversations. It was refreshing to learn about this new (but actually, old) way of pursuing marriage, and yet not be bogged down by the sometimes boring tone of a theological treatise. The conversational tone makes the points made in the book very clear and easy to... More > understand, and even easy to implement! Prayerfully and scripturally examine the points made in this book, and perhaps even allow His word to change many of your previously held views about relationships.< Less
  • By John C.
    Aug 22, 2012
    I have often been tempted to write a book on covenant, Christian marriage that I would call, "I Kissed Courtship Goodbye." The reason for the title would be to address a particular definition of courtship that in essence, operates as two families "dating" each other. It subconsciously goes something like this, "we'll let our children court for awhile and see how things go, but if things don't go the direction that we want to, or we discover that they just aren't "compatible" we can just cut it off and there is no harm done." As a result, a young man or woman can easily go through two or three, or more courtships before becoming married. My question, considering the veracity with which the "courtship crowd" trashes the "dating crowd," is how is this any better? I find this logic to be disturbing and destructive. At its core, is a horrible misunderstanding of what commitment/covenant really is. While I would still like to write... More > more extensively on this one day, I feel less of a need to after reading "What are you Doing?" Vaughn's simple, conversational, and scriptural approach to this topic leaves little room for misunderstanding or conjecture and can be easily comprehended by young and old. I was blessed to have parents and now parents-in-law who were wise enough to see through the courtship model's lack of a leg to stand on. My wife's and my relationship and attraction grew naturally and as time went by after our covenant making we both revealed and discovered how we, over time, came to the point where we could not see ourselves marrying anyone other than each other. That simple. Relationships are complicated. They are complicated because we complicate them. But as we grow spiritually, mature, and become more like Christ and wisely meditate on the words of God which were not spoken vain, we apply the principles resulting from this learned understanding to gradually and incrementally casting off the complications that man creates and simultaneously embrace the simplicity and beauty of God's created order. "What are you Doing?" is a casual, and I believe, effective tool of exercising our minds to think more biblically in the realm of how two people covenant together in marriage. I highly recommend it to your gentle reader.< Less
  • By Ronald W Kirk
    Nov 16, 2011
    I am manuscript review and theology editor for Nordskog Publishing. Vaughn kindly undertook to review some of our books. I here reciprocate. Mr. Ohlman’s What Are You Doing? is a morality play treating of the interlinked problems of young adult sexuality, marriage, and getting there from here. It treats of dating and a current, Evangelical form of courtship that claims often to leave young people without mates. First, this is one of the most important topics of our time. Christians have foolishly followed the pagan world’s pattern of declining morals and population reduction. Out of the notion that the Law of God is somehow inferior to contemporary moralism, we have largely replaced the Bible with humanism, when we need true moral direction. What Are You Doing? in a sometimes humorous, but always pointed fashion, reverses this pattern with a relentless appeal to Scriptures. This is a must-read for all parents and young adults to guide Biblical thinking toward marriage and our... More > generational responsibility before Christ. To comment more on the substance of Mr. Ohlman’s conclusions would constitute an untoward spoiler. One should consider the arguments before entertaining the conclusions. Having said this, as with many issues confronting us these days, drawing dogmatic conclusions without a track record of good fruit is dangerous. In our fledgling efforts to make God’s Law our standard, we still seem to do so largely on a speculative basis. Theology is by nature a science. All knowledge is circular, as Van Til declares, and sound knowledge must be proved knowledge. The Word is the Seed. It must bear fruit. It took several hundred years to establish for good the doctrines of Christ, which we now take for almost for granted. Let us not be in a hurry to establish Biblically derived dogma over human issues when we haven’t yet acquired the skill from good practice. I recommend careful study of this issue. Here is an exellent starting place. The author’s conclusions in What Are You Doing? apply to a very specific situation, one where the parties involved, in a kind of reverse engineering, come to accept and live out the Biblical conclusions that they work out within the story. The context of the Biblical argument here is a mature Christian covenantal community, and wise parents. Christians need to learn to apply Biblical wisdom when the ideal is not available, though certainly we ought to aim for the ideal. As a dad of five mature children, and many growing grandchildren, I confess that however much we pursued Biblical righteousness, God required faith. No checklist can compensate for wisdom. To wisdom, add faith. Only God brings the increase in human affairs. I thank God, for our family’s successful experiences.< Less
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