Finding a romantic partner is only one of many goals you can have at once. There's a difference between making something a priority and having an obsession. No one wants to be the Captain Ahab of the dating world. One of the best pieces of dating advice I have gotten is that relationships are great, but don't obsess over them! For example, when you like a guy and your mutual friends have multiple anecdotes about him projectile vomiting after excessive drinking, you may need to rethink the infatuation. You didn't like it when your godson hurled on you, and he's a toddler. It's not about getting someone to think you're good enough for them. It’s about finding someone you can stand to spend a ridiculous amount of time with. It's about finding the puzzle piece you fit with and the Ernie to your Bert. "Speak up and be authentic, connect over your dreams and goals, and evaluate if you two are a values match. This is how you create a long-lasting, soul-satisfying partnership that will last a lifetime," suggest dating coaches Orna and Matthew Walters.