The Marriage Mismatch is a thought-provoking exploration of why so many relationships struggle—not because of a lack of love, but because partners are operating from completely different ideas of what marriage is meant to be. Part memoir and part relationship analysis, the book follows the author’s personal journey through an 18-year marriage that ultimately revealed a powerful insight: some people approach relationships as covenants, while others approach them as structures or technologies designed to organize life, family, and social status. Drawing from personal experience, psychology, history, and spiritual tradition, The Marriage Mismatch examines the two competing frameworks that shape modern relationships: • Covenant partnership – relationships built on enduring emotional and spiritual bonds • Marriage as technology – relationships structured through legal, social, and economic systems Through historical case studies—including the marriages of King Henry VIII—as well as biblical stories such as Hosea and Gomer and Mary and Joseph, the book explores how these different frameworks influence how people choose partners, interpret commitment, and respond to conflict. The result is a compassionate and honest look at why even well-intentioned relationships sometimes fall apart. Rather than assigning blame, The Marriage Mismatch offers readers a new way to think about partnership: understanding the mindset behind the relationship may matter more than the relationship itself. For anyone questioning their relationship, navigating divorce, or trying to build a healthier partnership, this book provides a framework for identifying alignment, recognizing mismatches, and choosing relationships with clarity and intention.