WHY YOUR RELATIONSHIPS NEVER WORK explains attachment theory through a raw, unfiltered Nigerian lens. No Western fluff. No fake positivity. Just honest, often painful truth from real Nigerian experiences. It confronts childhood patterns that quietly control who you love, how you love, and why things keep failing. It unpacks attachment styles, trauma, parental abuse, & learned behaviors that drag you back to the same toxic partners. And it shows a real path forward, from endless repetition to awareness, from chaos to secure, healthy connection. The person you became was shaped long before you understood why. This book traces every confusing pattern in your relationships back to its root, your earliest experiences of love, safety, and belonging. Why you exhaust yourself for others while falling apart. Why a stranger's mood becomes your emergency. Why you fall in love too quickly and a relationship that finally feels right sends you spiraling until you ruin it. Why asking for help feels shameful. Why your calendar stays packed , because stillness is unbearable. Why you choose distance, short term pleasure over real connection. It uncovers the things you never once considered to be trauma responses , the habits you've simply accepted as personality. Like Talking to yourself, Forgetting things easily, struggling to hold onto short-term memories, not carelessness, not laziness, but a nervous system that learned to protect you by not holding on too tightly. Running from intimacy the moment it gets real. Lying, even when the truth would have cost nothing. These aren't character flaws. They are survival strategies that outlived their purpose. And then addictions, the ones society labels as weakness or moral failure. It explains where they were born, what void they were always trying to fill, and why willpower alone was never going to be enough. Also it explores family dynamics, narcissistic parents, favoritism that turns siblings against each other & the confusion of growing up around people who preach faith but live in ways that cause harm. This book unveils the root of infidelity in relationships, why most relationships end tragic ways and even further explains why Nigerian nurses abroad are get killed by Nigerian spouses too often, and what the "nurse stereotype" really conceals, unhealed cycles.