MUTUAL CUMMING

Sex! We all want to enjoy it. We are never satisfied to the point that we are done and won’t want it again. Indeed, if we actually climax or cum, it raises the bar of our expectation and pushes us to want more and more and more. Painfully, very few people talk about their sexual frustrations in marriage. A lot of spouses have been satisfied by their partner. Others have occasionally got close to it, whereas some simply live in the frustrations of not being fulfilled sexually. The issue surrounding sex and satisfaction in marriage has led some spouses to actually believe that enjoyment of sex is not meant for them. Others are forced to lower their expectations and gradually loose the joy of their sexuality. What follows is that you have spouses whose libido begins to grind down. As a counsellor, I have spoken to both husbands and wives who are totally frustrated and some who are considering affairs and even homosexual relationships to deal with the frustration. As a minister, I have been trusted to speak with spouses of ministers who are tired of this frustration and it hurts to hear these things. It hurts to note that the smiles a lot of couples wear outside is to cover up untold pain on the inside. Both spouses deserve to be satisfied. Both of you deserve the joy of having a climax. This is achievable. If it were not, God would not put us in marriage and put the desire in us. What is often missing is the know-how and this is no respecter of your social or spiritual class. I will show you in this book that it is possible, and that you can both satisfy your spouse and be satisfied. It is on this note that I hope that both husbands and wives read this book. I hope they find a way to consider the thoughts in it together, and to reflect deeply on how to maximize their sexuality. Even the Bible leaves no room for guesses about this. I make haste to quote a verse in this introduction and will speak about it in greater details in the book. In 1 Corinthians 7(MSG), we read in verse 3 that: The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality –The husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. This is what God intended for the marriage bed, mutual satisfaction. If the bed is not warm for both partners, the marriage is cold. As we take this journey, approach the subject with an open mind and allow knowledge and understanding birth wisdom in you.