A true story about Scotland (“Scotty”) Douglas McArthur and his family from when his parents were married until his son Matthew was born forty years later. Scotty has lived two lives. The first was in a toxic and broken family through his first nineteen and a half years of life that almost caused him to commit suicide at age twelve. After struggling to overcome deep-rooted fears of dating, marriage, and family norms, his unexpected second life began at age twenty-five after he met his wife-to-be Melissa, which continues to the present day. Written as a father’s memoir to his son, this book is more than just a historical family reference; it includes Scotty’s personal and reflective retrospective on mental illness, violence, religion, courtship, relationships, love, marriage and family—with key lessons of life he learned along the way.