"Trying to Decide: How to End the "Stay-Leave" Mindset Trap That's Keeping You Stuck in a Toxic Marriage"is for Christian women navigating a marriage with a narcissistic or abusive spouse and wondering whether to stay, leave, or confused about how to begin healing. It offers practical, step-by-step guidance, helpful resources, and Dr. Trudy's own testimony of recognizing abuse,making difficult decisions, and ultimately finding healing. Most importantly, this book reminds us that God does not ask us to remain in abuse; He desires for us to become the whole, purposeful, and abundantly alive people He created us to be. This book focuses on helping Christian women bring change into their life and comes from a trauma-informed perspective. Exercises and resources emphasize personal transformation in spite of the difficulties arising in a toxic or abusive marriage. Chapters present thought-provoking concepts like the risks of staying in the marriage, the risks of leaving the marriage and realistic challenges to expect whichever decision is made. For readers, this is like having the author, Dr. Trudy, a licensed therapist and certified trauma specialist herself, as their personal therapist. This is a unique writing as it is not just information about narcissism, it gives practical tools and there is a complete daily plan to follow for help reaching the decision that’s best, whether it is stay or leave. Detailed professional insights about narcissistic personality disorder are presented including a discussion about whether or not it is possible for a narcissistic spouse to change. There are numerous resources listed for help, including referrals to professionals, books and articles for further guidance. The author gives encouragement for anyone paralyzed in a toxic relationship and offers understanding about the inability to function or bring change to the situation. She graciously navigates the topic of Christians and divorce. Anyone feeling they've hit the wall about what to do to change their lives will gain more than enough insight to put together a positive plan for change for their future. Any doubts about which way to go - stay or leave- will be put to rest.